Which came first…chicken or the egg?… Chevy or Ford better?… Success or Happiness first?
I just need to and then I will be happy. Sound familiar? We have become a society with microwave mentality, I want it now, buy now and pay for it later, and an ever increasing pile of responsibilities and things we need to do. It is overwhelming. It amazes me the people living lives of quiet desperation…and most do not even realize. While I no longer dwell on the negatives in life, I still strive to grow my awareness. I long for the easy living life of before puberty…when my only real responsibility was homework. Summer vacation was exactly that, day after day of only my own creativity carrying me through each of all my days off. Life was simple for me back then…and that is what I want now.
As I create my new future in my world within, I have to keep full awareness of not creating a blueprint similar to that of which I just escaped!
This week brought a huge AHA MOMENT to me in the form of understanding happiness. Which comes first, success or happiness? Honestly…I believed, notice the past tense, that success comes first. My happiness was based on what I achieved and what I was able to acquire. If I work harder, then I’ll be more successful. If I am more successful, THEN, I will be happier.
How did this philosophy set up camp in my mind? How did I allow it? Where did it come from? Well…it came from…ALL AROUND ME! Listen to the radio, watch TV, newspapers, magazines, billboards, where isn’t it??? We must be the watchful guardian of our minds to only allow that which is truth to enter. Why are those that seem to have the least, seem the happiest? So it must not be about working harder to become more successful to make ourselves happier. That seems to be a broken or an untrue belief to me now.
Every time my brain had a success, I was trained to change the goal post of what success looked like. I kept moving my goal post back, further away from me!? I hit my sales target, I changed my sales target, I hit my collection target, I changed my collection target…and if happiness is on the opposite side of success…well, my brain would never get there!!! We, as a society, have pushed happiness over the cognitive horizon, because we think that we have to be successful first. We must be about making ourselves happy first…before success! *Epiphany***
How do I make myself happy?
First thing every morning I write down on my index cards 3 things that I am grateful for. In 21 days, my brain will retain the pattern of scanning the world for the positive first and my negativity will atrophy. I do my reads, exercise and sits as structured in our MKMMA. I welcome other ideas that would help me become even more happy. 😉