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Minion letting go of the banana

2017 Week24-Timing

Timing… I’m laughing as I realize what I named this weeks post and realize it’s been… Yikes… too long since I last posted.  Normally I would be red penciling myself for the negative aspect of that but… you know what? …Life happens!!!

…and life has been amazing for me lately.  I have turned into “that guy” that gets things done with a happy knack!  The experience of all the little inexplicable miracles that are becoming a part of my life lately are just… amazing.

I am launching my new career and still keeping thinking that I am going to wake up from this dream all-of-a-sudden.  My life is MINE!  I am not a slave to doing what I have to anymore.  Just like in my DMP (Definite Major Purpose) I awake each day to a new day that I have created.  The people coming into my life are awesome and I welcome each of them for the reason they have come into my life…some to strengthen me, some to test me, some to teach me…but whatever the reason…I welcome each one and silently address them with an I Love You!

The only downfall of my new life is that time seems to fly by even faster than before.  I remember one of my first jobs sitting at a desk writing warranty claims…watching the clock all day as my day just dragged by…  How long those days seemed to last verses how my days fly by now!!!??  How I became dreading waking up and having to run my tool route…running on that hamster wheel of life…not being fulfilled and knowing that their was something more important that I was here to do.  I’m chipping the cement off and finding my golden self…enjoying the journey.

I have given up safe and secure and traded that for what can be.  I let go of my banana…

Monkey Not Letting Go Of Banana

Let Go Of The Banana

…Given up the life I had so I could have the life I want.  What took me so long?  What was I so afraid of?  I live by faith and love now.  Each day presents new opportunities for me that I allow to blossom and live with.  The universe is exactly as it should be and I am allowing my heart and God to guide me.  I am the master of my emotions and I choose to stay in harmony.

Blessed to be on this journey…blessed to be with those who read this.  I am letting my light shine and thereby giving others permission to do the same.   Join with me…let your light shine!  Chip off your cement and find the golden you…the you, you were meant to be!

I BELIEVE!

 

Believe

2017 Week19-Happy

Happy

What does that word mean to you?  What kind of feelings does the word ‘happy’ bring to you?  Are you happy?

I am happy.  I choose to be happy.  I look for happiness and find it.  The more I focus on happiness, the more I find.  The more I find, the more happy I become.

Sensing a pattern?

Awareness … leads to perspective, more accurately… a change of perspective!

I have become brutally aware of people’s perspective.  “You are making me angry!”  While I understand this comment, my awareness has changed my perspective about it.  “I” can not make you angry.  I can do and say things that could make you angry… but ultimately, it is “you” that has decided to get angry.  Yes?  It took me a while to become aware of this… but once I did, YIKES!

On the same train of thought… what makes you happy?  I would really rather focus on happy, positive thoughts than negative, unhappy ones.  What you focus on grows while that which you choose to forget, atrophies or “gradually decline in effectiveness or vigor due to underuse or neglect.”  Bye bye unhappy angry thoughts! …Hello happy, positive thoughts… looking for kindness, happiness, thoughtfulness, success…

Yesterday Roger calls me.  After our lunch he invited me to the other day, he put into play one of the ideas that we shared… I like to call it masterminding 😉  The outcome that he had from the use of this idea was amazing.  As Roger explained to me what happened and said “because of you”… I was exploding inside.  (even recounting this experience now, I am experiencing the same bodily reactions as I did originally.  I guess I will have to bookmark this and read it any time I need a “charge”)  Goosebumps ran from the base of my spine into my neck… from my neck into my head… I will never forget the feeling!!!  It was like a charge of electricity that exploded from my head and swept through my body.  I helped someone!  I truly helped someone!!!  I am so happy… so right with nature, the universe… so fulfilled!!!  Thank you so much Roger for …how do I describe it?… sharing with me your success… being one with the universe… being in the flow of giving and receiving… giving without the expectation of reciprocity… I am so elated right now!!!

I struggle with my PPN’s (Personal Pivotal Needs)  Through the MKMMA (Master Key Master Mind Alliance) we are guided to choose two.  I have gone back and forth between “Helping Others” and “Recognition for Creative Expression.”  Liberty (the ability to act as one pleases and having the financial resources to do so) is one that I definitely decided on.  Roger’s phone call and my reactions to it takes me into my sit with the question; What was more fulfilling… what is more important for me… to me, helping Roger or the recognition for it?

I Believe

I am Whole, Perfect, Strong, Powerful, Loving, Harmonious and HAPPY!!!

 

2017 Week18-My Itch

“Within me burns a flame which has been passed from generations uncounted and its heat is a constant irritation to my spirit to become better than I am, and I will. I will fan this flame of dissatisfaction and proclaim my uniqueness to the world.”

I thought it was an itch…I guess it’s a flame, or its heat… that has been irritating me lately.  It amazes me how differently I see things.  Things that I have seen, that I have read, that I have experienced, over and over again, …and… all of a sudden… look different, mean something different… feel different…almost new to me.  The above passage comes from the scroll marked IV in Og Mandino’s book that I have been studying.  Although I have read it hundreds of times, I went searching for it today.  Today it means something… something different to me.  Today is the first day of the rest of my life.  When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.  Such truth has never been more profound as it has been for me these past few months.

Something is happening inside of me.  I am becoming more… me?  Following my heart.  Deciding to make myself happy.  Doing what I want to do.  Taking time to enjoy… everything!  I have started video blogging, something that I have wanted to do for awhile now.  I am not going to “red pencil” things that I do not do anymore, I am going to “green pencil” the things that I do do.  I focus on what is important to me.  God, family, business.

Believe… and most importantly… TAKE ACTION!  As an axe’s trifling blows against a mighty oak seem of no consequence, it WILL eventually tumble if you keep at it.  I’ll leave you with a favorite quote and my video for this week:

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to drawback. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.

Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.

Blessings

 

2017 Week17-Let’s Go!

Just got done editing some video.  Reaching out to those that supported me for my first career… “slinging iron”  30 years some of you stuck it out with me… I am eternally grateful.

Winning the Stanley Cup!!!  Now there is a great feeling to make yourself feel!!!

I am Whole, Perfect, Strong, Powerful, Loving, Harmonious, and HAPPY!

Letting my light shine!  Giving myself permission!!  Illuminating the way for others!!!

Things manifesting in ways I could never imagine…or…hmmmm … have I imagined… did deep inside some sub-conscious controller connect to the universe and transmit the deep intent of WHAT I WANT!???  Wait… what?  Did I actually imply that I know what I want?  YAY!  I’m going to use my favorite words 😉  The constant “awareness” of knowing that I was trying to figure out what I want …seems to have manifested a new “perspective” in my blueprint that is allowing me to sharpen my focus and … epiphany! …I know what I want in a blurry kinda way.  Slowly I can feel myself working toward honing in on the sharp, focused picture of it!!!  I’m babbling…but I love this… I LOVE ME!

So while I am focusing in on what I want and enjoying my ‘new life’ …are there chunks of cement falling off?  My gold starting to peek out?  Seeing so much more kindness around me lately, it’s hard to keep my feelings in check sometimes.  Sunday sermon was another “darn it, I forgot my tissues….again.”  :-/  It’s blowing my mind… the overlap of so many different ways a single message is reaching me???… it’s a little miracle…actually…Lots of little miracles!!!

I BELIEVE!!!

 

Awareness Meter

2017 Week16-WOW!

WOW!

What an amazing week!  How much amazing have I missed by not being tuned in?  It took me some time to process this past week…but more importantly, I did!!!  I have become aware of how much life I miss…how much AMAZING life I missed.  Something like looking for kindness and not seeing it until you have prepared your mind…programed your mind, to look for it…and there it is!…all around!

It’s strange that I didn’t really realize how incredible of a week I had until I could quiet my mind and reflect back upon the previous days and digest what really happened.  We closed a deal with our new friends…my partner Joe closed a deal for us while I was gone!  Thursday I met Extraordinary Eileen at my 90 year-old fathers where we had her home-baked delicious Shepard’s pie for dinner with an unexpected pleasure of the company of my childhood friend John coming over to join us.  Friday we headed to Boston to join Rory, Courtney, Shoshana and Shane to hang out and that evening we all went to the Hard Rock to sing our voices out and dance the night away to Rubix Cubes!!!  Saturday back to Dad’s for “Deli Night” at the Temple and holy crap!…what an awesome time!  Great food, corned beef and pastrami specifically… free booze…a great show with a magician and a comedian…I won a gift card to The Puritan Back Room, a childhood favorite place, …their mudslides are to die for… Rory and Courtney won a bid on whiskey and cigars and before I knew it we were heading back to Dad’s to surprise Courtney with a chocolate raspberry birthday cake made by Bethany, Eileen’s friend…she should be making cakes professionally…that tasted like heaven!!!  I have no idea where the time went, I remember thinking on the ride home.

While this trip could have been put away with the rest of the great times I had and never spent much time thinking about and reliving it all over again, and again, and again… I certainly am happy that I will be reliving all the feelings of happiness, love, gratitude, peace and tranquility for years to come.  Awareness is bringing me more and more different types of perspective and I am truly feeling blessed that I am on a completely different “mission” … a completely new path on my journey.  When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!!!  WOW!!!  Such power and truth in that statement.  It has become a whole new world out there for me…I am so blessed to be able to see things in a completely new light and see a completely different world than the one I used to see…the one I used to be in.

I believe.

Awareness Meter

 

2017 Week15-Calm

The universe is exactly the way it is suppose to be!  It is of no use to stress out about the things I can not control.  When I am more concerned about the things I can not control, I will do less about the things I can control!  There is a certain calm that is surrounding me lately…I truly believe a new blueprint is struggling to take control of me…to become a new resource for me…to me.  I love it.  I am struggling with it and it does take A LOT of focus and determination to not let the old blueprint sneak in.

I have noticed that I am …I was anal about a lot of things…a lot of things that didn’t really matter.  Things that through the passage of time will not matter.  Yet…for some reason…they had to matter to me…matter to an unhealthy degree.  A degree that would be detrimental to relationships in my life.  The red pencil syndrome I call it.  The glass half empty.  The dark tinted lenses that I chose to look through life with.

The Franklin makeover has taught me to look for what I seek.  If I seek nicer people…look for kindness…and BAM!…there they are!  If I seek to be more disciplined…look for discipline…and BAM!…there it is and now I am becoming more disciplined!  Seek and you shall find.  Give more, get more.  Be the change that you want to see in the world!

Believe

2017 Week14-Fine Line

The fine line between patience and procrastination seems to be a subject that I have become aware of lately.  While I have accepted the fact that I need to be patient about letting my new life blossom, I struggle with trying to keep my peace.  Sometimes feelings of stagnation attempt to get into my mind because I feel that I am not being aggressive enough… not moving forward fast enough with certain things in my life…but then I control…or try to control, those thoughts and feelings by bringing myself back to my peace with focus on the here and now.

The old blue print tries to be very strong…heck it was 30-40 years in the making, and I know now that it has not been and will not be an easy battle to win…but already the change…the CHANGES… have been so worth it!!!

Normally …um, before…the old me…I would be freaking out because my postings got behind…so far behind…but…the new me…says…chill dude!!! It’s all good! The universe is exactly the way it is suppose to be.  It’s all green pencil lately…new blueprint being created…al about all the things that I do so well, the forward direction that I am moving…the new life that I am creating and enjoying soooooo much!!!

Ya just gotta….Believe

2017 Week13-Relax

Relax

Is that a difficult thing to do?  Most people I think would tend to agree that it is a difficult thing to do…sad.  The opposite of relax is agitate, worry, tense…  Just reading these words make changes in my body that I now know how to recognize…unwanted changes!  So if just reading these words create negative changes in my body, what would living in these conditions day in and day out do?  YIKES!  Create sickness, poor health…shorten my life!!!??  Yup…I can see that plain as the nose on my face!

R e l a x   …just reading the word soothes me.  Taking more time to read it… to concentrate on it.  Feeling the word roll out of my mouth and concentrating on what that means to me… transporting me to a warm cozy beach somewhere.  I can feel the soft white warm baby powder sand around all my toes as I slowly make my way toward the blue green water glistening in the rays of the sunshine.  I hop into a hammock strung in the shade on the beach and flop onto my back as it swings back and forth… riding on the warm summer breeze and enjoying the sounds of the surf.  I am relaxed…I am at peace…I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy!

This is my new focus.  The world is exactly the way it is suppose to be.  There is no sense…there is no reason to fight that truth.  I am on a journey.  I have chosen my own path.  I am one decision away from completely changing… everything, or nothing!  To know this, to become aware of this, to live with intention and knowledge that I can control my own everything…is amazing, empowering and even a little scary.  RELAX  It lengthens my life, it changes my attitude, it allows me to see things I have never seen before, …although I have looked at them a million times before.

When I change the way I look at things, the things that I look at change.  I’m loving my new life by the way…in case you couldn’t tell.  😉  I notice a calm about me as I understand and learn more and more about me and what I want.  I especially love the fact that I catch myself laughing at the exact same things that used to send me into an intense negative agitated state.

R E L A X

Believe

2016 Week12-Patience

I want it NOW!!!  Remember that bumper sticker with the two vultures: vulturespatience

I remember when I was young…younger…a kid… and always wanting things, as soon as I could possibly get them.  Hmmmm, wait…no so true.  I mean that is not so past tense…I still want things as soon as I can get them.  I have always had a patience issue I guess.  Is that so abnormal?  Actually, isn’t that the norm of our society?  Don’t we have a ‘microwave’ mentality?  Haven’t we been sold a ‘get it now’ and even ‘pay later’ mind set?

The last three years, since engaging with MKMMA, have been mind-blowing for me.  I cycle through times of anxiousness and anxiety.  My growth has been incredible as I look back and analyze where I was to where I am now.  I had a very difficult transition of accepting where I am as to where I want to be and the time it was going to take…time it is taking, to get to where I want to be!

Lately, I have become more accepting of where I am…thanks to the MKMMA.  I am enjoying the journey…enjoying my life…enjoying each day and looking for the positive…looking for the happiness…looking for the things to be grateful for…and I am happier…more positive…and more grateful.  I am more trusting that I will find what I am looking for…simply by trusting!

Give more get more!

I am all in!!!

2016 Week11-Deep

How far down the rabbit hole do you want to go?

All the way!!!  I have always tried to finish what I start.  Hmmmmmm  If memory serves me…I think the view that my father had of me was opposite…I never finished what I started…  Didn’t finish college is what I remember triggered that memory of what he said…or I thought he said…or what I think he said…  he thought… 😯  It’s funny how we can convince ourselves of anything.  It’s truth that if you tell yourself something long enough, you’ll start to believe it.  So…why wouldn’t we start telling ourselves what we want to happen so that it will???

Yeah, I know…I’m all over the place lately…like a 2 year old…  Am I me at 2 years old again???  Have I torn myself down far enough meow that I can…that I have brought myself back to being able to rebuild me the way I want me???  Sometimes I disappear into hours of sitting and thinking lately.  I go somewhere that is different than here and sometimes I don’t want to come back to here…or is here there and there is here?  Geeesh…see what I mean? lol

Anywho…I have been withdrawn in my mind about who I am…who I want to be…and what do I want.  It’s been a wild ride quite honestly.  I’ve gone from the mountain tops to the valleys of moods time and time again.  While it really started to stress me out…I put a stop to that by turning to God and His word.  Truth and Grace.  I am enjoying the journey and have complete faith that I am exactly where I am suppose to be…the universe is exactly the way it is suppose to be.  The epiphanies that I have experienced lately are blowing me away.  The overlap of MasterKey and God’s word is amazing me!  The little inexplicable miracles I welcome with gratitude and a feeling of being in harmony.