2016 Week03-Focus

I was trying to get in my head this week what I need to have in order to be able to do better than before. Some of the words I brainstorm with are; Focus, Understanding, Action Plan, Scheduled, Commitment, Concentration, Practice, Taking Action, Hard Work, Big Payoff, Discipline, Drive, Desire, Why, Success. There is a level of commitment … or schedule of events that I need to acquire. I am working my way toward acquiring the right blend of each of the qualities mentioned before to jump start me up onto the next level of my life.

It is sometimes during these times of thinking and writing that things click for me. Sometimes even after reading my writing something clicks or I become aware of something. Sometimes someone will leave a comment that brings everything all together for me and I am filled with gratitude. Thank you.

This week, as each week, I renew myself. I renew my thinking, I think, I sit, I meditate…I create my world within to create my world without. I listen to my heart, not only allowing but, actually focusing on having it guide me. It feels so …like a weight has been lifted off of me… so… free to be able to do what I want!!! I schedule each day for what I want to do… simply amazing! Why had I not been able to see what I see so clearly now…then? …because I did not have the awareness… because I didn’t want to step out into the unknown, the scary unknown. Old quiet desperation was a lot more comfortable and familiar than stepping outside that realm and seeing what the world was waiting to share with me!

Looking forward to tomorrow!


…and 2 weeks are gone…BAM! Time has a new perspective to me…I LOVE MY NEW LIFE!!! Doing what I want…really…freaking…awesome! When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. WOW!…there’s a mouthful because soooo many things are changing for me. I used to have thought that things were changing and not understood the reason those things changed was simply because I was looking at them differently. So many new things to look at! The world is full of little inexplicable miracles which I am blessed to be a part of.

Third time’s the charm they say…well hello third time! Last year I was able to let go of my 30 year banana, this year I am really excited to see what letting go of the life I had so that I can have the life that I want produces. Nose to the grindstone (no nose comments)…now. I need to get into my planner and write my life into play. I find that the more I have in my planner…written in my handwriting, the more I get accomplished. If it isn’t written, it is not true- I have heard and now understand why. I notice having it in my passion planner gets it done! …but yet I still strive to use it as much as I wish I could…blue, red, green, yellow colored pencils and using my left hand feels so not like me…so cool!

I am trying to get the linking going on but it is taking a lot of … … trying to remember what I am supposed to be thinking…linking. Blue rectangle, or blue, or rectangle…2 more customers, 2 more clients, 2 more business partners by December 31st, 2016. How do I keep that in my mind…get it into my mind, let it into my mind and past the gatekeeper to get it into my subconscious where it will take care of the linking from now on so I don’t have to worry about worrying about it anymore 😉

Focus Danielson, FOCUS!

I Believe!

2016 Week01-Beginning

Already September 25th is upon me again. Years fly by as months used to. How many Septembers do I have left? As the 3rd session of the MKMMA begins, I am happier than I was last year at this time and I look forward to this session with a “3rd times the charm” optimism. Last year I let go of my banana 3 months after the start of the session. 3o years with Snap-on Tools seemed not only enough, but after I let go, it seemed like way too many! It amazes me that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. I’ll keep sharing my two favorite words: awareness and perspective. When your awareness of something surfaces, there is a complete new perspective of it. These words have been such a huge part of my life these last two years and I will continue chipping off the cement and searching for my gold. For those that ask “What the heck does that mean?”

I am pretty excited for what is about to happen in the next 6 months as I strike out on my journey again. I am grateful for and to those that will be with me, will support me and those that will accept me as I continue changing myself to be the person that I want to be and chase my dream that is calling. I Believe!

2015 Week 23-Emotions

I have been filled with feelings of happiness, gratitude, kindness, forgiveness, love, peace, faith, (I really could go on and on 😉 ) and an inner tranquility that I just can not believe I am experiencing…just simply amazing.  My life has taken an abrupt exit…you know on those shows when they are traveling down the highway…desert on both sides…and all-of-a-sudden they yank the wheel into a hard right turn and the car screeches sideways and shoots off the road into the sand and they are blowing through tumbleweeds and bushes and jumping the sand dunes…like that my life changed direction!  I jumped off that road of negativity…having to do what I had to do…living my life one dreadful day after another.  Hoping that “something” would happen… hoping that something would change.  “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Gandhi said.  I grabbed that steering wheel…I cranked it hard right!!!  I keep waiting to wake up from this dream.  Everything around me has changed…is changing.  I know now though: change comes from within.  I am changing.  I am chipping the cement off me because I have seen my gold.  I am following my heart…chasing my dream…enjoying every day as the gift that it is.  I am happy…happier than I have been in a long, long time.  The universe is exactly as it should be.

“Why should I permit the petty happenings of today to disturb me?”  I don’t!  “This too shall pass.”  Each day will be triumphant only when my smiles bring forth smiles from others and this I do in selfishness.”


More importantly…do something…take action now!  MKMMA


2015 Week 22-Acceptance

This morning’s read has struck me, well… *palm smacking the forehead*


“Satan is our enemy and his goal is to get us so emotionally rattled that we say things that will provide him with an opening into our lives, or he hopes that we will make unwise decisions during painful times and create messes that we will have to deal with for a long, long time afterward.”

I did not understand that if I could hold my tongue and remain emotionally stable during times of difficulty, then I would be honoring God and letting the devil know that he is not going to control me. I am not 100% successful at doing this… yet, but I am moving forward. And while I am not where I need to be, or want to be, I know that I am at least a lot further ahead of where I used to be. It is through this growth that I have learned the importance of managing my emotions….BUT…. it is so freaking hard!!!! …Just like being the silent, non-opinionated observer!!!!! But BUT BUT…. I got plenty of buts…it’s the doing I’m a having a problem with 😉

Last night was another situation…test…opportunity. Walking into a bar with Rory, my son, in Baltimore, I was asked to remove my hat, while he was getting a drink menu from the barmaid. Turning around from the barmaid he asked me what happened. “He told me to remove my hat”, I answered. We left. We discussed the situation and our feelings about it while we walked to another bar. Next bar, same attitude. I removed my hat. I think about week 23’s webinar that I just listened to on the way to Conn…particularly Trish’s presentation on humility…no resistance… “Effortless Ease” – “Nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease… with carefreeness, harmony and love. And when we harness the forces of harmony, joy, and love, we create success and good fortune with effortless ease.”

What am I pretending not to know?

Fifty some odd years has shaped me…made me what I am today. I am fighting and mourning the loss of the old me, yet I am accepting… I am celebrating the birth of the new me and enjoying this journey so much! I am letting go of what I no longer need to have the life I desire. So freaking cool!!!

2015 Week 21-Monthly Reflection

~ What was the most memorable part of this past month?  Describe it?

Lake Placid with my Honeykins! ??

Walking the streets hand in hand enjoying each others company – communicating and appreciating being with each other.  Scarfs and pants and …. a sweet Spyder jacket and awesome Stetson hat!  Prime rib and baby back ribs and a Bailey’s with my honey back home.

~ What were the three biggest lessons you’ve learned in this past month?

I need to use my planner more

I need to exercise

FEAR = Lack of Faith

~ Review your planner for past month and assess your priorities.  Are you happy with how you spent your time?


~ What steps can you take this next month to adjust them?

Live in my planner!

Sit a lot more!

~ How are you different between this past month and the month before it?

I am happier… grateful…. and moving forward.  I am loving the journey and accept that the universe is exactly the way it is suppose to be.  Listening to the bits and pieces I get from my heart and loving the opportunities that I am seeing all around me – along with kindness.  Time to FOCUS DANIELSON…. FOCUS!

~ What or who are you especially grateful for this past month?

My Wife – The Extraordinary Eileen!  So awesome to be connecting in our speaking to each other on such a deeper level.  Heart felt verses eggshell tip-toeing conversation.  Like we were…are becoming closer.  Sharing a part of each other with each other ❤

~ Name three things you can improve on this upcoming month?  What are concrete actions you can take to work towards these improvements?

Appointment setting.
– Pick up the phone

Schedule following.
– Make appointments and schedule to follow.

– Schedule it.  …5 k getting awful close…

~ From 1- 10, how do you feel overall about this past month?

9 – It was awesome!!!

Living For Others

2015 Week 20-Sharing

Caring is sharing, so I am sharing.

Today Extraordinary Eileen guided our day.  Something about the give more/get more mind set is starting to take root in my brain and by giving my beautiful bride the reins to guide our day today, it somehow brought me even more joy.  We journeyed into Mystic, CT for the annual Cabin Fever Charity Chowda (as Mark would say it) Cook-off.  It was awesome how many people were out and about and even though the wind and temperature reminded me of my northeast location during the winter season, the bright intense sunshine reminded me of summer days.

Because I am not normally in an environment with so many people around, I took this opportunity to be the observer, to watch and I decided to look for kindness.  I am realizing now how the world around me is starting to change.  Yes, I know…as what I choose to focus on will grow and what I choose not to focus on will atrophy, it is all about what I want to see…what I want my world to be, full of kindness and friendly thoughtful people.

First kindness gesture I spotted was a young girl giving her leftover tickets to someone.  I shared with my wife what I had spotted and how happy it made me feel inside to see this act of kindness somewhere that I had not really felt there were very many kind people.  To further my feelings of inspiration and hope for this area that I did not feel was the best area for spotting these random acts of kindness, a young boy held out his tickets to me.  His mother stepped up and asked him if he was sure that he wanted to give their leftover tickets to me.  The boy nodded yes and the mother explained that they had their fill of chowder and wanted to know if I would like the rest of their tickets.

As I turned to Extraordinary Eileen and explained what had just happened, we just shared a look of mutual disbelief and accepted the fact that we were a part of something so much larger than we ever expected.  She wanted to make mass, which she thought was at 4 and we decided better to be a little late than to miss all of it.  We got to church just after 4 and the empty parking lot gave us a little hope.  Mass started at 5 and we went into the church as I suggested that we do a sit together as we wait for mass to start.  I don’t know where the hour went!!???

It is pretty amazing to me how awareness and perspective can change, have been changing…everything.  It is very difficult to change things that have become life-long habits, but…I really do want something different than what I have had.  While they may only be baby steps…I’ll take them!  It has taken me a long time to become who I am…I have no problem focusing on what I really what to become and moving in that direction.  Any forward progress inspires me yet I do understand that there will be days that I will feel as if I have fallen backwards.  I choose to believe that I am exactly where I am suppose to be in my journey.  I am looking forward to the wonderful miraculous changes ahead of me.

Awareness Meter

2015 Week 19-Gratitude

I am grateful…so grateful, for my new life.  Thank you!

Each day is a clean slate for me now as I begin each by reaching for my index cards first… even before my glasses!  As the fog starts clearing from my head, my brain begins coming up to speed and gratitude… gratitude… gratitude scanners engage and immediately start scanning through my mind searching for three things I am grateful for.  First time, every time, is how gosh darn cozy our bed is… how cozy our bedroom is!  (Thanks Extraordinary Eileen!  😉  Indoor plumbing is next…use an out-house if you don’t think that’s a huge one…lol… then I’m searching through my mind for which three new ones I will write onto the index cards as I grab my pen.  Through the stack of my cards I flash… 3 Gratitudes… 2 Random Acts of Kindness… 1 Positive Experience… and 1 Accomplishment.  What a way to start a day… reliving all the great moments again and again… scoring and assisting in last weeks hockey game, and again.. and again… I scored from BEHIND the net… I’m making myself smile just thinking about it again now.  🙂

I am making a new habit and I am replacing my old habit with it!  Trading my old bad habit in for new happy, positive, great one…yeah baby!  I’m starting to get that in play.  Train the brain… I am also starting to notice a change in how my mind is working… oh wait.. or is it being more aware of how my mind processes …so freaking amazing!!!  Some mornings I struggle to fill out my cards while other mornings I could do extra cards.  Would that go in line with waking up with a different mood every morning?  “One of nature’s tricks, little understood, that each day I awaken with moods that have changed from yesterday.”  I get that now.  So force start my day with the start that I want. positive and happy, and that way I am able to control what I allow into my waking brain… Awesome!

Put some index cards and a pen on your nightstand!

I Believe!




2015 Week 18-Goal Post

Which came first…chicken or the egg?… Chevy or Ford better?… Success or Happiness first?

I just need to and then I will be happy. Sound familiar? We have become a society with microwave mentality, I want it now, buy now and pay for it later, and an ever increasing pile of responsibilities and things we need to do. It is overwhelming. It amazes me the people living lives of quiet desperation…and most do not even realize. While I no longer dwell on the negatives in life, I still strive to grow my awareness. I long for the easy living life of before puberty…when my only real responsibility was homework. Summer vacation was exactly that, day after day of only my own creativity carrying me through each of all my days off. Life was simple for me back then…and that is what I want now.

As I create my new future in my world within, I have to keep full awareness of not creating a blueprint similar to that of which I just escaped!

This week brought a huge AHA MOMENT to me in the form of understanding happiness. Which comes first, success or happiness? Honestly…I believed, notice the past tense, that success comes first. My happiness was based on what I achieved and what I was able to acquire. If I work harder, then I’ll be more successful. If I am more successful, THEN, I will be happier.

How did this philosophy set up camp in my mind? How did I allow it? Where did it come from? Well…it came from…ALL AROUND ME! Listen to the radio, watch TV, newspapers, magazines, billboards, where isn’t it??? We must be the watchful guardian of our minds to only allow that which is truth to enter. Why are those that seem to have the least, seem the happiest? So it must not be about working harder to become more successful to make ourselves happier. That seems to be a broken or an untrue belief to me now.

Every time my brain had a success, I was trained to change the goal post of what success looked like. I kept moving my goal post back, further away from me!? I hit my sales target, I changed my sales target, I hit my collection target, I changed my collection target…and if happiness is on the opposite side of success…well, my brain would never get there!!! We, as a society, have pushed happiness over the cognitive horizon, because we think that we have to be successful first. We must be about making ourselves happy first…before success! *Epiphany***

How do I make myself happy?

First thing every morning I write down on my index cards 3 things that I am grateful for. In 21 days, my brain will retain the pattern of scanning the world for the positive first and my negativity will atrophy. I do my reads, exercise and sits as structured in our MKMMA. I welcome other ideas that would help me become even more happy.  😉



2015 Week 17-I Am Happy

I am learning that I am the only one in control when it comes to me and my being being happy, … or unhappy, or angry, or jealous, or grateful, or peaceful, or overjoyed…  I can decide how I want to feel!  I can decide how I want to feel and I can decide how I want to react to every situation.  *Epiphany Moment!*  So ixnay on the I can’t help it, it’s just the way I feel excuse.  I can help it…I can choose to change the way I feel, choose to change the way I react to everything!  Now it is definitely not easy…after all it’s my whole life I have associated anger with obstacles.  Why wouldn’t I want to associate challenge or opportunity with obstacles?  Cut me off in traffic…I flip you off  😮  …no no no…cut me off in traffic and you get a big smile and wave because I believe that you did not see me in your hurry.  (that one has been a tough one… 😉

So if what I choose to focus on appears more and more, why wouldn’t I choose to focus on gratitude, kindness, happiness?  I like happiness.  I like feeling happy…okay, I love feeling happy.  I love feeling that feeling that I am on top of the world!

I got my index cards out this week.  I keep hearing to write down 3 things that I am grateful for, as soon as I wake up, every morning for 21 days to create a more positive attitude for me.  I’m in.  Backtracked a few lessons to re-learn the structure of our new index card format.  I wake up with these now.  The first thoughts I engage in, as soon as I wake up, determines the tone of my day.  I usually stumble around trying to focus my eyes and thoughts as I am first gaining consciousness.  I love the idea of flashing through these index cards to immediately start my brain with visions of gratitude, kindness, re-living positive experiences, and accomplishments .  I might even try to squeeze out a smile or two!  Shawn Achor is an expert in positive psychology.  His research findings supports his belief that we need to train our brain to be happy.  Check it out:

My days are scrambled now with broken routines and unfamiliarity being the norm.  I am enjoying the journey as my awareness sharpens and my perspective evolves.  I thought about why I feel the need to shrink so that others will not feel insecure around me and believe that this type of action or type of thoughts blocks me from…me, from me becoming my better self.  Then reaching out to the support of the MKMMA, Trish so beautifully guided me:

  “If you were still lost and clueless, conforming to an ordinary life… Would you want someone you loved to hold themselves back and play small to make you feel better?  IT can be challenging to grow at a faster rate than those around us… But sooner or later, the ones who matter won’t mind and the ones who mind won’t matter… Guild it something that we had to learn… it’s a PROGRAM. You can choose not to run that one… Find you. The true you. and you find yourself surrounded by people you love who love you. It’s an amazing journey.”

Bless all of you.  I am slowly engaging more and more now as the heat from my flame is a constant irritation to my spirit to become better than I am.  I get it.  I feel it.  I believe it.